Depression can be the darkest corner of the earth. For some it can be the loneliest and most helpless place in the world. This is not a subject that is brought very often, but it is a very real and powerful mental disease. It is not easy to cope with and manage life, not to mention trying to add all the other things we have going on like school, work, gym, business, Netflix series and relationships.
How do I cope with this and manage to keep up with life? I can’t give anyone a perfect recipe and send them on their way, but I can share a few things that may help.
REALIZE WHEN DEPRESSION HITS
- Often times we don’t realize that our activities are slowing down until they stop completely.
- It can start with skipping the something fun or valuable that you do multiple days in a row such as going to the gym or going to your favorite cafe with friends because “you don’t feel like it”. Don’t get me wrong, it can be good to take some kind of a break! Sometimes we need that break to be fresh. But if you are missing out on something that you really enjoy doing, try to replace that with something new, even if it is something as simple as reading a book.
- Sleeping has been one of my go-to vices. There were times that my dreams were so much better than my life that I wanted to live in them instead of making a change in my life. This one has and sometimes is the toughest to this day.
- I make my bed, throw pillows and all, so I am not tempted to lie back down.
- Then I leave my house. Getting away from my house is the best thing because it pushes me out of my comfort zone and into a new environment. I see people running errands, and in such a hurry (usually to get nowhere but they sure seem like they are on a mission). It reminds me that other people are going through things too and they are out doing what needs to be done.
- I don’t want to say fake it till you make it, but fake it till you break it. You are stronger than your depression.
- Not only is there an entire community right here to support you and lift you up, but there is always someone in your life that would be there for you in a heartbeat.
- It is healthy to talk about why you feel the way you do. There are counselors, psychiatrists, psychologists and other resources that specialize in depression that help people just like you and me every day.
- Be strong enough to ask for help.
- The last thing you want to do is go to a pill! This is just a temporary fix!
“The ones who are the most broken are often the only ones that can keep it together.”
It is okay to fall apart sometimes because the greatest thing is that we don’t have to do it alone. I know what it is like to feel broken. Make today count. Roll out of bed, eat some pancakes and go outside, because every day you have the chance to pick up the pieces and make your life a dream.