One of the only things I am certain of in my life is its consistent uncertainty. Life isn’t certain. I am not 100% sure of anything. I am sure, however, that my life’s path is guided by the attitude I bring to it and the decisions I make within it.
Instinctively, I’ve come to the conclusion that with the right decisions and a positive attitude I will have a great life. And that’s comforting to believe, in theory. But from my experience it’s not always as easy as it’s sounds.
That’s because decisions aren’t clear cut. That’s the thing about making a decision. There’s no right or wrong answer. There isn’t an answer at all, there’s your choice - and it’s easy to get lost in that. Sometimes the right decision for you isn’t what’s right for those around you. Sometimes the easy choice isn’t the right one. Sometimes it is. A decision at age 18 may differ than one at age 50. Perceptions of decisions can differ. Is a selfless decision better than a selfish one? These are only some of the questions and thoughts that come into my mind when I think about the decisions that mold my life.
The decisions that mold my life are… well, all of them. Life is built of small decisions. I live with the philosophy that one’s life is some combination of their decisions and attitude. The right combination can and will lead to brilliant things. With a good attitude and good choices, you control your work ethic, your motivation, your productivity, your ability to make a change… and the list goes on.
As mentioned earlier, it isn’t always easy. An issue I’ve personally been struggling with in recent years is being unable to decide to have a positive attitude. Sometimes that is not a decision I get to make. I can relentlessly try, but sometimes I can’t feel anything but deeply sad. Depression is not a choice I get to make. And that’s where the combination between decisions and attitude guiding the outcomes of one’s life gets tricky.
So, although no one can simply decide to not feel depressed, there are certain decisions we do get to make. Steps along the way. Small decisions. Habits we can form. It’s easy to feel intimidated and lost when faced with big and seemingly impossible decisions. For me, those are emotional and attitude changes. But it’s the small decisions, making small changes and achievable goals, surrounding yourself with people that uplift you, and asking for help when you need it. Forming those positive habits is what makes those seemingly impossible decisions easily attainable.
“Consciously create habits because habits unconsciously dictate your life.” – Anonymous
So, tomorrow morning when I wake up I may not want to show up at work, but I will choose to go. I may want to hit snooze, but I’ll decide to get out of bed. I may not want to go to the gym, but I’ll choose to get there. Maybe I’ll go through that cycle for a while, but eventually I will effortlessly be the person I envision myself as. I’ll wake up, turn off my alarm, get out of bed, head to the gym to start my day, and see where the adventure takes me next.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Aristotle