First off, the fact that you are able to read this means you have a hell of a lot more than many people in the world. Remember that. We now have access to practically every subject we can think of at our fingertips, literally.
Disclaimer: this blog is not exactly about mental health, but more about something that has been bugging me and something that some people need to understand.
As we know, the world is changing. People are starting to make more money, we can get wifi from almost anywhere, kids are living at home longer, businesses are run from phones, and we don’t even have to go to the grocery store to get our groceries.
Think of this common scenario nowadays. Your parents are still together and you live with them… but they frustrate you? Sorry that they let you live under their roof and probably eat their food as well (most likely for free). What a damn shame! Did you know 1/3 of the population grow up with only one parent and 100 MILLION CHILDREN grow up with no parents.
We all have heard about what I just mentioned, but often it doesn’t sink in. We are the luckiest generation. We have life so much easier than years ago, yet we struggle with confidence, we feel as if we don’t have enough, and we are insanely insecure. Depression and suicide rates are on the rise right now. Why do we feel this way? I personally think a huge factor is that thing in your hands right now you are likely reading this on, and because of those participation trophies we got growing up. A lot of us finished school, got in the “real” world, and realized its fucking hard and there are no more 8th place trophies.
It has been scientifically proven that gratefulness and appreciation are the recipe for happiness. Practicing gratitude increases accountability which directly leads to higher self-esteem and happiness. It also make a person much better to be around.
Some people around you, whether it be your parents or a loved one may be a little more affectionate and smothering then you may like, but guess what? That means they care. If you don’t like how they are treating you, the best thing you can do is communicate with them so you can develop an even better relationship.
You may not be where you want to be right now or the person you want to be; which is totally fine. What matters most is that you have the self-awareness to notice that you’re unhappy with where you are and have the desire to do something about it. You are part of the first generation that has discovered we are capable of improving our lives; socially, mentally, physically, and financially.
Our mind can be very good but also very bad. Our mind emphasizes more on the negative than it does on the positive. We are our own worst enemy, but with work, we can break this trend.
Being grateful can be a skill, it can take work and time but it is something that we all should start doing if we want to live a better life. I am sure you’ve heard this before, but the best thing you can do is wake up every morning and either write down or say out loud at least 3 things that you are grateful for. Tell someone that you are grateful for them, but make sure you actually mean it! Whoever you tell will probably feel pretty damn good as well.
For some it may be difficult to tell someone face to face you are grateful for them, maybe you aren’t the best communicator. Just do your best. You could even start out with a small note or even a text message. Everything takes work. I believe this is the best thing that anyone can work on for themselves. Nothing bad will happen when you tell people you are grateful for them, or when you start to appreciate more about yourself and your life.
I am (somewhat) sorry if anyone takes any offence to this. It’s life, and this is how I personally feel. If you happen to know me or read my bio you will see that I have had my own struggles, but I am overcoming them and doing the best that I can in life with what I have been given. I am realizing what I have, who is there for me, what makes me who I am, and that real life can be very hard at times. But it is a hell of a lot of fun when you look at it in a new way. How I have started feeling lately is fucking great and I want everyone at some point in their life to feel how I’m feeling now!